The planning.

The *dun dun duh!* wedding planning *que scream.*

No.

Really.

I’ve actually been plotting for months already. And as much as I am NOT one of those girls who’s dreamed about being a princess all my life (I’ll pause here for some light vomiting) at the moment I’m actually excited that I get to talk about my plans with people, and not just quietly simmer on the inside with ideas.

Even though I’m 26 and in this day and age that’s kinda young for marriage (or youngish, anyways) believe it or not, through some strange luck, most of my friends are already married, or at least co-habitating. So I’ve already lived vicariously through a lot of their experiences and know what to avoid (seating charts for one – they sound like a quick way to lose your mind – cocktail style reception it is then!).

Last night, we and the family went out for my sisters birthday (we had southern barbecue, because we take our food seriously as a family) and things on one side of the table (the female one of course) inevitably turned to talks of pouffy dresses and fascinators. It was really fun to just be indulgently girly for once, and dream of the possibilities.

On the way out, after dinner, my mom said that all her friends told her that we would end up not speaking by the end of this, and we both remarked on how crazy that is. We may yet end up eating our words, but my mom pretty much pledged to stay out of my way, as I pledged not to get pushed around or be emotionally blackmailed by anyone about our wedding. I wish every girl (and boy) could get together with her mom and have that conversation. Because it’s not worth it otherwise.

I don’t understand what happens to people when they start planning these things, but with the way many family interactions go while planning a wedding, it’s a wonder more people don’t just elope. I’m sooo thankful my parents are actually aware of that, and want me to have a wedding that is about me and my boy, not them and their family and friends. Frankly, it actually makes me a lot more willing to consult them and their opinions, knowing they’re so supportive of mine.